Unsolicited D!ck Pics

What makes (some) guys think it’s cool, cute, funny, or acceptable to send a girl an unsolicited d!ck pic? I’m not talking about the girl you’ve been dating, sleeping with, or your significant other. I’m talking about a girl you hardly know.

The vast majority of women do not get turned on by that. (Some do, and they’ll definitely let you know.) Again, this is not directed at people who have established a certain kind of relationship. If I’m dealing with a man that way, I welcome a sexy pic here and there, and will definitely reciprocate. But a man will never have to guess if that’s okay with me or not, because I’ll ask for it or let him know it’s okay with me.

I have only blocked one person on social media. I have ignored a lot of inappropriate messages, but only had to block one. I was talking to this guy (via messenger) for a couple of months. Not really about being together or anything, but just conversation and some light flirting.

One day, out of the blue, IT pops up in my messages. Uhm, excuse me, but I did not ask for nor want to see that. I responded in kind, asking him why he thought that was appropriate. He apologized profusely and we carried on.

A few weeks later, he did it again. I blocked him immediately. He showed that he had no respect for my boundaries, nor did he care to retain the fact that I did NOT want to see it. Not only did I not want to see it, but he should probably consult a doctor. It didn’t look right. It was different colors and looked diseased. (I wish I was being funny or exaggerating, but the image is burned in my mind. Please excuse me while I go shower and take a shot.)

I’ve had others send them before, and when confronted they apologized and we moved on. While I prefer not to receive them unsolicited, at least be respectful about my boundaries once I share that info with you.

But, guys, WHY is this a thing? I’ve talked to several women and we’ve all received the infamous pics, without asking, inquiring, or welcoming them. Not one of the women I’ve spoken to was okay with it, or liked it. Most were thoroughly disgusted and turned off.

One of the social circles I’m involved with got together and came up with a plan. We decided we’d print them all out and rate them and hang them in a very public place asking the owners to fess up and claim their pics.

We didn’t actually do it, though I think we should have. It would have been hilarious to see the embarrassment of the men who essentially violated our inboxes. I don’t think the guys would have found that as amusing as us. Interesting, isn’t it?

Seriously, this digital age we exist in has created so many convenient avenues to talk, keep in touch, share information, get information, get things done, etc. However, it has also created an entirely new way for people to infringe upon others and basically violate their personal space. Can we do better? Can we respect each other, even when we’re sitting behind a screen and keyboard?