Scott Benson and Fatherhood

The first book being released is centered around Scott, a single father. I know quite a few single fathers who are incredibly active in their children’s lives and wouldn’t have it any other way, despite how the courts or media would like to portray it. For that reason, I’ve decided to write a little bit about my experiences, what I’ve witnessed, and Scott Benson, himself.

Scott is a lot of things. Some of those things would be judged and categorized as good, others not so much. One thing I respect about him, is that he does take care of his children. He sacrifices and works hard to support them. He definitely has a few selfish tendencies, but the kids come first. And no matter what storm is brewing internally, their well-being seems to be at the forefront of his mind.

I was inspired by a man I know, and watching him with his children, for that part of Scott’s personality. Again, I know several men who are actively involved in their children’s lives, whether they are still dealing with the mother or not. On the flip side, I’ve dealt with more than a few who weren’t.

Some blamed the “crazy baby mama” while others weren’t even that motivated to give a reason. However, I’d say those men are the minority of men I’ve known. Listening to and watching some of the things some of my friends have gone through as fathers, I’ve come to realize that they get a bad rep in general. I’ve watched some of the shenanigans even in court.

Most laws and societal judgements will automatically give a mother more chances than a father. And rarely do they get to uncover the entire truth. Many of us have never healed from our own traumas and pass new traumas off to our children, usually unintentionally.

I believe there is something about children that is magical and beautiful. My heart hurts for the littles who have to experience the disappointment and hurt of absentee or inconsistent parents. I also believe it does take a village, so those children can benefit from other loving caregivers. That won’t replace the missing link, but it can soften the blow and help them learn how to navigate their feelings in a healthy way.

Scott has five children. Three are grown by the time we are introduced to him. But he still has two little ones and we watch some of the mess he has to navigate with their mother at times. Honestly, I feel like a lot of parents can identify with the struggles of co-parenting with someone you might not even like any more.

If you’re going through that, please don’t allow your children to become victims of that. You liked each other enough at one point to make a baby, so please let the hurt and anger go and concentrate only on what’s best for the child. 

You both show and teach the child how to treat others and how to allow others to treat them by the way you deal with each other. Even if the little one never hears a conversation, they can feel all the feelings between you.

Scott might not be the best example of letting go of some of his feelings. Either way, if he has any redeemable qualities at all, I’m glad his presence and love for his children is one of them. I feel like I know Scott extremely well. I love parts of him, while others I’m not so fond of.

Can’t wait to hear your feedback on if you like him, love him, hate him, tolerate him, understand him, etc; or just flat out want to see him hung.

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